You deserve to stay a virgin, HERE'S WHY
One of the biggest mistakes I see people doing in our generation,
Men, between 16 and 25 years old give too much importance to their virginity.
For them, “life is worthless” if they don’t lose that V-CARD.
But why does such an insignificant topic affects people’s mental health?
You may not have arrived at the last stage (k*lling yourself).
But the chances of you still being a virgin (and feeling insecure about it) are high.
You might say the opposite, however, unconsciously, it damages your mental health.
After all, it tripled in the last 10 years!
You have this particular feeling of missing out on your life,
Others are living their prime, meanwhile, you crown in bed feeling like a loser and everyone knows that.
If that’s your case…
Let me give you some advice I wish someone would have given me sooner
Nobody cares about your virginity. Nobody cares.
NOBODY. F*CKING. CAAAAARES.
act like I’m yelling at you because I am
You do NOT need to lose your virginity ASAP.
You do NOT need to always follow social expectations.
You do NOT need to feel miserable and insecure about that.
There is no good argument for seeing this as an obligation.
Indeed, Most people that will make fun of you for being a virgin, probably have no confidence, so they use you to fulfill their ego.
Listen. There is something else you can do instead of feeling bad.
Think about learning new skill sets, improving your relationship skills, and focusing on personal growth.
Overwhelming yourself about something you cannot currently change has no sense!
Keep on reading, it’s worth it.
I used to care about that too
A few years ago, I was the only virgin in my group of friends.
And I’m still a virgin, but let me explain what changed
I was insecure when hearing that topic in a conversation, why?
Because I needed validation from them, to be seen as a cool guy and not a loser who never talked to a girl?
But at the same time, all they were talking about is adult content and f*cking hoes.
It’s when I normalized watching p*rn
Dragging myself down, which meant taking the easy part, and feeling miserable about why “no GiRLS LiKe Me”.
I probably have seen more naked females on the Internet than a millionaire in Ibiza.
I couldn’t stop, Pornography is exposed EVERYWHERE!
The only reason why the number of virgins has tripled is because of how easy it is to find adult content now.
Like really… all you have to do now is to hide in your stinky aaah room and type the magic word on Google.
Here are the statistics of how many people looking for the “magic word”
IT'S SO EASY!
But a few decades ago, you had to follow a whole goddamn process to see a naked girl:
Dress up well
Be confident
Take care of yourself
Look fit
Have a sense of humor
Be smart (at least look smart)
Be Ambitious
(the list goes on…)
Thus, in 16 years old Wael’s mind (me):
“let’s just stick with adult content and not try to approach girls in real life because…
*sigh*, it’s too hard.
Lucky me I changed now
I will give you the ONLY pieces of advice that have worked for me.
let’s say that I completely flipped the coin during these last 12 months.
I can’t remember the last time I watched porn.
I developed my relationship skills, if I see a girl that I like, I’ll be able to handle a good conversation with her, spend a good moment, and build something strong.
I already got asked once by a girl if I wanted to have s*x with her, but I gently declined.
I’m just… trying to take a different path.
Let’s say that I am a virgin “by choice”
This means that I can have sexual connections with a girl if I wanted to
But I prefer to stay a virgin and focus on developing myself for the moment.
It’s NOT about my religion
I’m NOT trying to act like a Sigma male
I’m NOT trying to make you feel better (that’s on you haha)
I just want to make it real 💓
I wanna have sexual relations with someone I truly love
With someone meeting my HIGH expectations (99% of girls won’t meet them)
See the long-term of my relationships and not fulfill selfish desires
I have passed this period of wanting to prove to my friends that “I can be cool too”
I just wanna be myself and reject the ones who don’t accept who I am.
Whether I will lose my virginity tomorrow, next month, or in 10 years, I don’t care.
I wanna feel something remarkable and that will last.
I came across these beliefs when I started to focus on improving my mental health and focus on my purpose in life.
Even if I am not a “professional who dated 40583029 girls and has never got rejected”
I will tell you how I got rid of those self-delusional thoughts and improved my relationship skills.
Don’t stress yourself, sex is not the important part.
This newsletter is aimed to improve your mental health
I believe that focusing on having a feminine and supportive woman on your side,
Is better than watching those YTB videos on “HoW tO GeT a Girl iN 5 minutes”
It might take time, but that’s how the game works.
I taught myself to stop running after the easy part
I am 100% sure that adult content negatively impacted my perspective on girls,
I didn’t even try to talk to girls anymore, I had access to everything on the Internet.
Now I am not saying that I only relate to girls with s*x 😂 (ofc not)
But since I didn’t have a father figure, and my friends were only talking about that topic, I didn’t question my beliefs.
I thought that what I was doing was normal, and should stay like that forever.
But I was wrong!
STOP P*RN, the majority of girls that you will see in real life are not acting like on PH, twitch, and social media in general.
The Internet is a game of attention, whoever gets the most attention wins the money, which is why everything is sexualized nowadays.
Take a break from that darkness and go outside.
Approach more girls
Being rejected for the first, second, or third time is not the best feeling.
Like if all your life has been crushed by a “NO” (or an “EWW” for the best of you haha)
This is why I want you to try approaching girls again and again.
But each time, you’ll do it differently, be better.
Next time you get rejected ask yourself, why?
“Why did I get rejected?”
write out some of your mistakes and you will:
Get better over the time
Laugh about your rejections, instead of feeling miserable for the 67th time.
Be more confident
Come up with a better approach every time
Understand more about how girls work
Increase your chances of having love
A few months ago, I tried my 2 first cold approaches,
HORRIBLE
I was stressing the f*ck out and not being myself.
That was so awkward, to the point I questioned my life LMAO.
I was being weird and stressed in front of an average human being.
(P.S. I do sparrings till I’m bleeding and I swear to god I never stressed like this)
But after all, I acted like a man, I put my ego down and told myself:
“I need to improve my approaching skills”
Most men would give up after one or two approaches, using stupid excuses such as:
I don’t have the genetics
I’m small
I’m ugly
I’m brown (Idk how, but some people use that excuse on Reddit 😂)
Therefore, I tried to cold approach more girls, take notes of my wrong moves, and keep my wise ones.
And whenever I was getting rejected, I didn’t care at all!
Because I have nothing to lose at the end of the day.
You will need to keep in mind that nothing is gonna happen if she says no.
You have infinite cards, use them in the supermarket, on the street, on the beach.
Over time it will become a real-life video game rather than something hurtful,
The problem was that social expectations and p*rn dragged me down for years, Which didn’t allow me to start approaching girls when I was younger.
Fortunately, one of my friends has pushed me to start it (I still thank him)
P.S. Cold approaches are just a way to remove the fear of rejection. You’ll be more likely to start the conversation with an indirect approach for a long-term relationship.
In conclusion,
In our modern world, losing virginity is easier than we think.
See this topic from a different perspective.
Focus on improving your mental health, personal growth, and relationship skills.
Many successful men have faced a good amount of rejection before being in their dream state.
But the majority of men will take the easy part (p*rn and blaming themselves)
So are you?
Take your time, there is a widespread belief that masculinity is tied to sexual experience, and men who haven't had sex may be seen as inadequate or immature.
Do not only focus on the physical part of a girl but also her interests and the way she acts with other people around her.